tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post3389434398980819218..comments2024-03-22T03:19:38.110-04:00Comments on Forever In Hell: Controlling Much?PersonalFailurehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03034292023591747601noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-61821895962704956572010-03-03T15:49:43.280-05:002010-03-03T15:49:43.280-05:00Budgie: Geds, your mom sounds a bit like my stepm...Budgie: <i>Geds, your mom sounds a bit like my stepmom.</i><br /><br />To be fair, I was literally just saying, "I haven't heard from my mom yet," without a value judgment.<br /><br />I finally did get a response, which was, "Why didn't you take your grandmother to negotiate with you?" That comes from the last time my grandmother bought a car. She'd wanted to only spend $15k, but ended up with a car in the low 20s and incentives and whatnot only dropped it down to around or 18-something including tax and destination (this was during Cash for Clunkers, so there was a steep discount). The sales guy pulled the old, "What number can I write down that would get you to buy this car today?"<br /><br />She said, "Fifteen thousand," without skipping a beat. They ended up knocking it down by another $500 or so before my grandmother grudgingly agreed to buy the car. Mind you, she'd hated everything else she'd driven and her 1996 Ford Crown Victoria was in bad shape and would never, ever be worth as much as it was during CfC. It was definitely one of those brilliant moments.<br /><br />And it did teach me an all-important lesson: never, but never, let them think you need a car and always make like you're willing to walk out. It's how I got an opening bid of $300 above invoice from my salesman when I bought my car.Gedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15047239425466517786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-36836078777710227962010-03-03T15:22:33.570-05:002010-03-03T15:22:33.570-05:00@Anariel. Wow. Just... wow. I don't even know ...@Anariel. Wow. Just... wow. I don't even know enough about your situation to say anything useful. Is it possible to say, "Look, I prayed and submitted myself and I really believe that God is telling me that this guy isn't part of His Plan for me?"Michael Mockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06233321050691782148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-49180086762124472882010-03-03T12:54:10.242-05:002010-03-03T12:54:10.242-05:00Geds, your mom sounds a bit like my stepmom. Sever...Geds, your mom sounds a bit like my stepmom. Several years back, I went skydiving with some friends, and I brought the video over to show my folks. The only things out of my dad's mouth were several variations of, "WOW! That's awesome, sweetie!" My stepmom sat off in the corner, tight-lipped until the end when she finally said, rather primly, "You know, I just don't understand. I would NEVER do something like this without talking it over with my parents first" (and then, "By the way, somebody on the news had a horrible skydiving accident just the other day. I don't suppose you heard?") The funny thing is, I'd brought the video over for her benefit, because a few weeks earlier, she'd complained she didn't feel like she was included my life. I think it was the first time I realized this was her problem, not mine.<br /><br />As for the marriage topic, well...being a crazy couple of Jesus Campers at the time, both Hubby and I thought it would be just fabulous if he went and talked to my parents first before he officially proposed. He did, and my dad's response was one of confusion: "Um. She's a grown adult. Are you really looking for our permission?" The truth is, we really weren't. We thought of it in terms of "giving us your blessing", which roughly translates to, "Look, we've pretty much made our decision. But hey, we're 'honoring our parents' by coming and talking to you about it first. Aren't we spiffy?"<br /><br />Oh, and I love that line about "a young man from a broken home". As if that explains it all.The Woeful Budgiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940543617741545988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-60049195241002234972010-03-03T10:38:17.540-05:002010-03-03T10:38:17.540-05:00This is what you get when you have misinformed peo...This is what you get when you have misinformed people using the Bible as some kind of moral guide to their lives. Somehow we have to get it through peoples heads that the Bible isn't any more divine than the Qu'ran and hopefully they'll wake up from this intellectual sedation.Compassionate Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16651495740612483172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-17228199721040753802010-03-03T10:14:09.600-05:002010-03-03T10:14:09.600-05:00Parents: oh, hey, we found this guy--we've bee...Parents: oh, hey, we found this guy--we've been talking to him and we've decided that you and he are going to court (because dating is evil).<br /><br />No one would ever say it is an arranged marriage, but that's basically what it comes down to. My objections do not matter. The only thing that matters is that my parents have decided he is a good, godly man who shares "our" values and beliefs.<br /><br />I object, and I am disobedient and not submitting to God's authority.Anarielnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-70931139472363892862010-03-02T19:00:19.011-05:002010-03-02T19:00:19.011-05:00Wow, society and culture was so different back the...Wow, society and culture was so different back then. Thanks for the history lesson and reminding us how good we have it in America today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-36476931091853370532010-03-02T16:52:03.273-05:002010-03-02T16:52:03.273-05:00From the article:
"Abraham did not leave Isa...From the article:<br /><br />"Abraham did not leave Isaac to choose his own wife by himself. Abraham was getting old and he wanted to make sure that Isaac had a good wife before he died."<br /><br />No, Abraham told his son not to get interested in any of the Cannanites, and to go back to his own country to get himself a wife (presumably by the good old "bash 'em over the head and drag 'em away by their hair" routine).<br /><br />In other words, Abe was a racist.<br /><br />So that Missionary family that left africa were just being true to the bible. Good to know.<br /><br />----------------------------------------------<br /><br />Not to worry, I'll just hide my devil horns under my hat when I date christian women.Quasarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398018171200335379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-69921525139583585022010-03-02T15:41:28.702-05:002010-03-02T15:41:28.702-05:00Good night. That's painful. As someone who g...Good night. That's painful. As someone who grew up on the outskirts of crazy Evangelical culture and once had a thing with a girl who really wanted her parents to run her life for her I still have no fucking clue what could possibly lead someone to think like this.<br /><br />I bought a car last night. The first time my parents knew I was car shopping was when I sent them an email and said, "Hey, check it out. I bought a car. Here's a picture."<br /><br />I haven't heard from my mom. But my dad's response was, "That's cool. What'd you get on trade-in?"<br /><br />That's kinda how that should work. And I'm pretty sure that if I told them, "Hey, I'm engaged," they'd be all, "Why didn't you tell us you'd met someone(y'know, assuming they were as uninformed about the car shopping)," not, "Why didn't you get our approval to get married?"<br /><br />Anything else is just effing stupid. Then again, I'm nearly thirty. And I possess a penis. So maybe these things don't apply to me, anyway.Gedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15047239425466517786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-59347326660769230122010-03-02T15:39:54.992-05:002010-03-02T15:39:54.992-05:00This is the sort of crap that completely dispels t...This is the sort of crap that completely dispels the illusion of a 'traditional marriage'. Very few people have arranged marriages in the U.S. anymore but that's what a traditional marriage used to be, a contract between mutually agreeing families.Godlesshttp://leftagenda.comnoreply@blogger.com