tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post4413754763066780208..comments2024-03-22T03:19:38.110-04:00Comments on Forever In Hell: A Ripped, Crumpled GiftPersonalFailurehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03034292023591747601noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-10675606014447603582009-06-18T04:27:46.544-04:002009-06-18T04:27:46.544-04:00what about regretting that you went into a marriag...what about regretting that you went into a marriage with no sexual experience? i mean, i love Pete, and never want to be with anyone else - but part of the reason we meshed so well is because we were able to avoid so many of the mistakes that happen the first few times you have sex, and because we both were experienced, knew what we wanted, had some idea of what the other *might* want, and were able to easily and without shame communicate what we wanted.<br /><br />who the hell would want a virgin, anyway? no experience and etc. plus, part of the idea of virginity is the hyman - an "organ" that fades away over time in most cases anyway - and that the first time (or first few times) a woman has sex it HURTS (it doesn't always. but it is SUPPOSED to)<br /><br />if you are marrying the woman you love, why the HELL would you want to start off by HURTING her?!denelianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08083149213773118359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-57351874659886927952009-06-18T03:43:49.769-04:002009-06-18T03:43:49.769-04:00Beautiful post. Thank you for writing that.
The i...Beautiful post. Thank you for writing that.<br /><br />The interesting thing about girls who write paragraphs like the one you quoted is that, in the end, they rarely wait. Most Christians have sex when they're dating. I know that was the case with many couples I knew when I was a fundamentalist Christian single.<br /><br />When push comes to shove, their self-control is really tiny.<br /><br />I also wanted to say that, when it comes to sex, experience does make it better, in my opinion anyway.Unrepentanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05976781368955629917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-79334939159103208752009-06-17T16:27:44.115-04:002009-06-17T16:27:44.115-04:00Now that I feel dirty for my super misogynistic me...Now that I feel dirty for my super misogynistic message, I want to say that your Christmas story is beautiful.BeamStalkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772110446629492132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-82080122472056850372009-06-17T15:44:54.894-04:002009-06-17T15:44:54.894-04:00This fits in the whole virgin-whore dichotomy. The...This fits in the whole virgin-whore dichotomy. There are understandable cultural and possibly evolutionary reasons for this (although like much of ev psych the ideas are almost completely untestable and so should be taken with a hefty dose of salt). When a make knows that a female is a virgin that means any offspring they have soon will be the male's. So the male can be certain that investing resources in the offspring makes sense.Joshuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00637936588223855248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-23761027480387645402009-06-17T15:23:19.599-04:002009-06-17T15:23:19.599-04:00As far as I can tell (without having actually read...As far as I can tell (without having actually read any research on it), the entire thing originated from insecure men having an OCD-level need to be sure who their children were.<br /><br />Okay, so I may hyperbolize, but...Cynical Nymphhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12601814894895238102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-85888451952286293212009-06-17T14:56:46.791-04:002009-06-17T14:56:46.791-04:00I remember giving gifts to my housemates one Chris...I remember giving gifts to my housemates one Christmas where every gift was a book or CD or DVD of mine that I just wrapped in newspaper. The thing is; I made sure that every single one of them was fit for the person it went to and wrote a little personal limerick on each - cue tears from the lady folk and back-slapping (plus manly tears) from the man-folk.<br /><br />The thought is what counts because, at the end of the day, we <i>are</i> our thoughts, we are not our iPods (insert Tyler Durden speech here)<br /><br />I remember being a virgin. It sucked. I remember losing my virginity. That sucked too. I remember the first time I was with my present girlfriend (after both of us had had many years of individual experiences). That, most certainly, did not suck. <br /><br />I can't imagine how depressed I'd be if I'd have stuck with my first-time-girl, purely because of the fact that cherries were busted that time.ExPatMatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08666078524214384329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1334761054277672365.post-22330243018043711712009-06-17T14:14:28.739-04:002009-06-17T14:14:28.739-04:00The Virginity Myth addresses all of this. This who...The Virginity Myth addresses all of this. This whole idea is unspeakably creepy to me, woman as girls, but not just girls, highly sexualized girls. It's weird, these people who are obsessed with virginity put a sexual spin on every relationship a woman has, because that's all she is, her vagina and her hymen.Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01264241978515946396noreply@blogger.com