Monday, February 14, 2011

Dumb Bitches Get Acid in the Face



(trigger warning: acid attack, rape, domestic violence. please visit these delightful otters instead!]

I can't promise that this entire post will be up to my usual standards of writing (not that I'm exactly Samuel Coleridge to begin with) because this fucking rape culture misogynist bullshit makes me that angry.

I don't know how many times this needs to be said, but I'll say it again: in an attack of any kind, from unwanted touching to rape to acid thrown in the face, the blame lies with the attacker, not the victim. There is nothing anyone can do to "deserve" having acid thrown in their face. Nothing. Certainly not being confident and independent.

Yeah, you fucking read that right: A woman being confident and independent is asking to be raped and have acid thrown in her face. What does that little slut expect when she leaves her house without a male relative to escort her? What are those dumb bitches thinking when they walk around acting like human beings with rights? Don't they know any better?

Katie Piper is the Englishwoman who, as a beautiful 26-year-old, embarked on a relationship with a thuggish looking man named Daniel Lynch. When Lynch became possessive and angry, Katie Piper tried to break off the relationship. Lynch responded by raping her and then arranged for an accomplice to throw acid in her face, disfiguring her.

See, he was "thuggish looking", what else did she expect besides rape and acid? Because dangerous men always look dangerous. You can tell just by looking, unless you're some dumb slut trying to be all independent.

Why revisit this story? Katie Piper has now explained in more detail what happened in the relationship with Lynch. And I was struck by this brief description of her childhood:

Born in Hampshire in 1983, I had an idyllic childhood. My father David owned a barber shop and my mother Diane was a teacher.They doted on my brother Paul, sister Suzy, and me.

As a youngster I was independent and fearless. I never suspected there was any badness in the world. 'You can be anything you want to be,' Dad used to tell me.

There is a clash between the traditional and the modern here. Girls are not naturally independent and fearless. Traditionally they grew up in the protective warmth of the family. Katie Piper had a traditional childhood in this sense and seems to appreciate it.

But she was also raised with very modern expectations. Her father drummed into her that she could be anything she wanted to be, in other words, that the highest good to aim at was that of maximum autonomy.

See, now there's the problem- daddy didn't protect her enough. Daddy told her that she was a human being who could dream and strive and be autonomous- and we all know what that earns you. This Lynch guy is basically just an innocent bystander, caught in Katie's web of autonomy. If she had just been a good little girl and never dreamed of anything more than being the possession of a man, this never would have happened.

Really, Katie basically raped herself and threw acid in her own face.

In brief, Katie Piper had been protected as a girl by her secure family life; she made a great deal of being independent and fearless; and she saw the world as perfectly open and unlimited and without the restricting presence of evil or malevolence.

Which left her like a babe in the woods. How could she learn prudence, a "caution or circumspection as to danger or risk," when she saw herself as a fearless woman in a world without evil?

Dear Mark Richardson: I am confident in speaking for all women everywhere when I tell you that no woman, no matter how independent, is fearless or views the world as lacking in evil. Every single one of us is well aware that every man we meet could be a rapist. In fact, we're a little more aware of evil than most men are, in that men don't generally expect to be raped at some point in their lives, so let me ask you something: do you expect every person you meet to be the embodiment of evil? Do you hide in your home and only go outside with a full military escort armed with automatic rifles and rocket launchers?

Of course you don't. Because no one can live that way. You go out into the world aware that bad things can happen to you at the hands of bad people and hope for the best. And most days nothing happens. But when something bad does happen- to a man- we don't blame the victim, we blame the perpetrator. Well, from now on, when men are robbed or beaten, we should remind them that that's just the price you pay for leaving your home. You idiot.

So there is little guidance to women in these feminist campaigns about how to evaluate the risk of a particular situation or relationship. And sometimes feminists go further in hindering a sense of prudence in women, by fiercely objecting to any discussion of the issue on the basis that it represents "blaming the victim". Feminists want to focus on "changing men," in the belief that the cause of violence is a political one so that it's possible to eliminate violence against women through political reform.

I suppose, for the time being, it's up to fathers to try to cultivate the quality of prudence in their daughters (without going so far as to scare them from relationships with men).

"Now, honey, if you leave the house without a male escort, you will be beaten, raped and disfigured. What do you mean you don't want to get married?"

Mark Richardson, Mark, Mark, Mark, you fucking . . . obscenities fail me, but just assume I said whatever would offend you the most (liberal, prochoice, feminist probably), but is there any other arena where we don't try to prevent the offenders of crimes from offending? We don't blame anyone but the driver themselves when they drive drunk, do we? We don't blame anyone but the user or dealer of the drugs, do we? And while insurance will give you a discount if you have an alarm system on your home or car, the police don't drag you away if you don't have them, do they?

Yeah, it's just those dumb bitches trying to act like people we blame, right Mark?

Go fuck yourself.

14 comments:

  1. "Thar he blows! The white male!" [starts looking for a harpoon]

    Aaand I made a mistake. I went and read the first bunch of comments over there. The very first comment has so many racist undertones they become racist overtones, and the majority of comments after that agree wholeheartedly with it, some so blatently racist I had to read them twice to make sure I hadn't misread.

    Fire is too good for them. We need at least a trifecta of torture: I'm thinking giant killer mutant bees, a pit of shark/electric-eel genetic hybrids, and waterboarding.

    And they identify as Australian. Frig. I vant to make it known zat for ze next few days at least, I am Danish, und haff nozzing to do vit those silly convict people on zere silly leetle island, yah?

    (Not entirely a lie, either. My family is originally from Denmark)

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  2. Oh, I see, by "thuggish", he meant "black". Got it.

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  3. Oh, I see, by "thuggish", he meant "black". Got it.

    Did you not get the memo? Thuggish = black. Because if we outright say that black people are thugs we'll get called out on our racism. But if we say "thuggish" and attach it to a person of a black person we're calling out "thuggishness," not "blackpersonness." And if anyone points out that the only time we use the word "thuggish" it's next to a picture of a black man we can then talk about how horrible it is that we're being called racists by teh evul libruls. And that means that we're the truly oppressed ones.

    It's all reverse racism in the end.

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  4. Also, on another note, it's really disturbing how easy it was to pull that thread. The overall malleability of the English language and the way the bigots are getting really good at plausible deniability isn't something I want to think about too much.

    Further, from the picture in the linked article, the dude doesn't look particularly "thuggish." He didn't strike me as a particularly intelligent, kind-souled individual, but chances are that the picture they used was from his booking or something and that's not the sort of place where people look their best. So just saying, "He looks like a thug," is a bad start if, y'know, you don't want to be an asshole.

    This, of course, is the problem. The good guys don't always look like good guys. The bad guys don't always look like bad guys. So if we take a bad guy, show that person in the most unflattering light, and then say, "See, this is what a bad guy looks like," we're going to have problems down the road.

    Especially if you want to conflate "black" with "bad guy."

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  5. What was done to Katie Piper was so horrific and unconscionable that I really didn't think anything as mundane as an idiot blog post could somehow make me feel more disgusted about what those men did to her.

    Well, live and learn, yes? I wonder what this troglodyte would think - let alone say - if he actually read Katie's biography and learned that she *gasp* has dared to be intimate with a boyfriend again after the attack! She's actually had the audacity to fight a lack of verdict on her ex's rape charge, taking the charge back to retrial (where he was in fact convicted)! She's, like, healing, and, like, acting as a fully functional adult! Noes!! She didn't learn anything!

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  6. Yes horrible torture is way to good for such an extreme bag of douche as this Mark idiot. Is there something worse than torture?

    I am guessing he is the sort of guy that has reason to be sympathetic to acid throwing rapists.

    I am the proud father of a young daughter and I also protect and love her, I also encourage her that she can be anything she wants to be and that she should be fearless and confident. Acoording to this guy I am raising her to be another one of his rape victims, but fortunately his opinion doesn't mean shit to me.

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  7. i hate "Thugish" and i am fucking sick of fucking strangers coming up to me and offering to help me "escape" from my "thugish" boyfriend. seriously, the next time some fucking hick does this at the grocery store i'm just going to scream.

    sorry. in the meantime - i agree, torture is too good for this guy -
    i say we force a sex change on him and let HIM spend a year or three in our shoes.

    and the fact that that is a worse threat than multiple tortures is everything that's wrong with patriarchy and our fucked up fucking rape culture.

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  8. "i say we force a sex change on him and let HIM spend a year or three in our shoes. "

    I'm on it. From previous experience (don't ask), we'll need a time cube, a sample of his blood and 5000 gallons of yoghurt.

    The cube provides infinite raw power, the yoghurt converts that power from insano-physics to mad-biology (unfortionately, it evaporates as it does so), and the DNA provides a mental life-force signature for it to target. Once we've got those we bathe the area in energy, provide a mental trigger (basically, scream "OMG you're turning into a girl!" or similar at him), and his horrified psychic emanations will take care of the rest.

    The only disadvantage is that it'll wear off when it runs out of energy, which is why we needed so much yoghurt. I calculate that 5000 gallons will last about 4 months.

    And the possiblity that anyone with a similar mental signature in the area will also get... actually, scrath that. That's a feature, not a bug.

    Oh, and the high probability of spontanious morphological destabilisation for the poor bastard who gets to handle the unshielded timecube.

    I'm thinking the torture might be easier.

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  9. Quasar;

    you are seriously my second favorite person on the intratubes, surpassed only by PF.


    that's TOTALLY AWESOME - and yeah, that's a lot of yogurt. totally doable, though :D

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  10. I think you missed the point of the post. It had nothing to do with blame. Obviously Lynch and his accomplice are to blame for committing the crime.

    The point of the post was why a woman might choose a thuggish man for a boyfriend. I was interested in the fact that Katie Piper said she thought there was no evil in the world. It seemed to be an admission of naivety.

    However, that's probably not the main reason why women like Katie Piper choose dangerous men as boyfriends. There is probably an element of sexual allure there.

    And that's something that feminists need to have an honest look at. Why? If a significant number of women are selecting men for aggressive, risk-taking qualities then that will end up being reflected in male culture.

    It's a big issue, because the laws of sexual attraction aren't easy to change. It's difficult to tell a woman "Don't be sexually attracted to dangerous men" as sexual attraction isn't something we rationally choose.

    So what's the solution? How would feminists deal with this problem?

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  11. fucking seriously?

    i think YOU missed the point of PF's post - and the point IS THAT IT IS THE FAULT OF THE PEOPLE WHO COMMIT THESE ACTS. that it is NOT the victim's fault!!!!!!!!

    sure, i'm with a "thuggish" guy. who treats me like glass. just because a person is "thuggish" [either black, or just wearing clothing made famous by rappers, whichever definition of "thug" one is using] does NOT mean that they are not obligated to treat other with respect.

    fuck you. fuck your "what are feminists going to do?" and fuck your mansplaining of the "point of the post". OBVIOUSLY the point of the original post was to, as ALWAYS, figure out how to blame the woman for the evil done to her. THAT'S THE PROBLEM - and we already KNOW how to stop this shit [the attacks, all of them, from the original acid to the final attack to blame the victim] we feminists have been saying it for YEARS. that the way to STOP this shit is to A) stop BLAMING THE VICTIM and B) START PUNISHING THE PERPETRATOR.

    because, see, your shit? is WHY men like that think it's ok to throw acid in the face of a girl who breaks up with them. posts like the original posts lead men like that to think it's OK to rape women, to beat women, to kill women - after all, if random stranger dudes will write these articles [for which they are then paid] blaming the victim, that means that the whole WORLD agrees with him, right? agrees that women aren't as important as men, agrees that it's ACTUALLY ok to do this shit, because if it WASN'T ok, then strange random writing dudes wouldn't be writing articles SAYING it was "her fault" for dating the wrong guy, and NOT *HIS FAULT* for being an evil fucking piece of shit who was the one WHO COMMITTED THE DEED. i mean, how the fuck can we EVER blame MEN for anything, when we all KNOW it's ALWAYS a woman's fault, because she's a woman? and that, by the way, is the worst fucking sexism - men running around screaming "it isn't a dude's fault, because she was female and looked like that and i couldn't control myself!" is ACTUALLY saying "i am incompetent, and i think ALL men are incompetent, because the mere presence of a woman means i can't function" and if that's ACTUALLY the case, then FUCK, men need to step aside and let women - those who AREN'T "forced" to rape and beat and mutilate and kill, "because i couldn't help myself, there were boobs" - start running the world. just fuck, man.

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  12. "However, that's probably not the main reason why women like Katie Piper choose dangerous men as boyfriends. There is probably an element of sexual allure there.

    And that's something that feminists need to have an honest look at. Why? If a significant number of women are selecting men for aggressive, risk-taking qualities then that will end up being reflected in male culture."


    Seriously? You think Katie Piper started going out with Lynch because he seemed "dangerous" or "aggressive"? You think any significant percentage of girls find those qualities attractive or appealing?

    Did you even read the article you linked to? Here's a few selected quotes:

    "Danny asked about my job and showered me with compliments. I was flattered and we arranged to meet at an event I was working at."

    "After the show, we chatted. He was smartly dressed, good-looking and seemed down-to-earth."

    "As well as being a martial arts expert, Danny, who was 28, said he was studying computing and owned properties in Kent and Manchester.

    "At the interval, I went to the bathroom. Danny insisted on escorting me. It seemed chivalrous and old-fashioned.

    Yeah, what a thug. Katie totally went out and "chose" the most obviously evil man she could find.

    So what's the solution? How would feminists deal with this problem?

    Which problem? The problem where men keep abusing women? Or the problem where women deliberately go looking for men who will abuse them? Because one of these only seems to happen inside your misogynistic head.

    Where the hell is that yoghurt?

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  13. "where is that yoghurt"

    i KNOW, right


    just. fuck!

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