Comments to Make You Cry

If you haven't read What Happened When I Went Undercover at a Christian Gay-to-Straight Conversion Camp by Ted Cox, you should. The story alone is enough to make anyone with the slightest bit of empathy teary-eyed, if only from frustration, but the comments are worse.

Especially this one:

You’re nothing but a left-wing fascist. You have no respect for the thousands of people with SSA [same sex attraction] who know that what they have is a neurosis and an addiction. What do you know about our suffering? This is America: we have the right to want to change. If people can decide to change their gender, why can’t they decide to change their sexual orientation? The mainstream gay world feels threatened and wants to defend its rights by squashing the rights of people with unwanted SSA.

I don’t think much of Rich Wyler and Richard Cohen (tried their seminars, was not impressed). There are much more professional approaches (Joseph Nicolosi,www.narth.org). The reason amateurs Wyler and Richard Cohen thrive is because people with unwanted SSA have been abandoned by the psychological profession, under pressure from politically correct fascists like yourself.

I do think your reporting is valuable in that it confirms my doubts about Richard Wyler, but if you have ANY shame and any scruples, why don’t you make it your next project to talk (openly, not behind a mask) to people with unwanted SSA so you can convince yourself that we’re not all repressed and under the influence of religion. I’m a Jewish-born left-wing atheist. I have SSA because I was emotionally abused by my mother and father. Duh!

You’re not even reporting accurately. Rich Wyler’s organization is NOT Christian. He NEVER talks about Jesus. You’re incompetent as well as prejudiced.

Get a real job and stop harassing a persecuted minority. Try to act like the scientist that you’re not and find out how many people with unwanted SSA were actually abused by their parents.

What's sad about that is why homosexuality would be unwanted: because society makes it so. Sexuality is like height- you're born with it. It's possible that constantly being sick as a child caused me to be a little shorter than I should have been (I'm 5'1.5" tall), but I was never going to be average height, let alone tall. Outside factors can affect sexuality somewhat, in terms of whether you find blondes more attractive than brunettes, but there is no outside factor that can make one homosexual or heterosexual or bisexual or anything in between.

This poor commentor so desperately hates himself, so desperately wants to change because of people like the Opiners, the Westboros, the Mormons, those who blame the Catholic pedophile scandal on gays.

Here's the thing; best of luck in coming to terms with yourself, but if we lived in a society where the men were predominantly gay and I had need to change my sexual orientation, I'd be as much out of luck as you probably are. I didn't decide that women aroused me and that men were sexually completely uninteresting, my penis told me all about it. I couldn't even fake it convincingly. I'd experience the same problems maintaining a gay relationship that gay men have in heterosexual marriage.

Exactly. I didn't need anyone to tell me that men arouse me and women do not. Until women start getting that broad-shouldered/slim hipped physique, that facial skin that's rough underneath all the time, and, oh yeah, penises, I can't change my attraction. And here's this poor guy, twisting himself into knots trying to change what can't be changed because assholes tell them that he should and scam artists tell him that he can.